All That Sassafrass: I know it's Wordless Wednesday,but.....

Wednesday, January 24

I know it's Wordless Wednesday,but.....

I have too much to talk about today to just put a picture on here. I'll pick up the WW next week, so don't you worry!

Wonderful: Reading to the girls last night. I have been reading a new book to the girls. Sun & Spoon. We borrowed it from a friend and we are LOVING it. Just Momma and girl time. IT IS AWESOME!!

Great: Getting to get in bed at 8:45 and snuggling with Jude and Glen under my electric blanket. Falling asleep around 9:00. (I've been getting to bed around 1:00 - 2:00, so this was GREAT)

Ugly: Not washing my face last night. I WANTED TO SNUGGLE!! It just felt yucky when I got up this morning though. Pure laziness.

REALLY ugly: Having to get gas this morning in my robe, pj's, glasses, hair not combed AND my DIRTY face. Whew - I know the image is rough. It even scares me.

SO nice: Harley (our pup) is in the kennel, Parker and Jude are coloring and playing behind me, and I am getting some computer time. WOO-HOO!

Time for the information that most of you could care less about, but some of you have asked, so here is the new info on my parents: They moved to Odessa about 2 years ago. My dad went from coaching (he had done this my WHOLE life) to being the Athletic Director for the schools in Odessa. We lived there when I was growing up for 5 years which is the longest I ever lived ANYWHERE growing up. It is the place that feels the most like home to me. It is about 2 and a half hours away and has been a great place for us to go visit. NOW my dad got a new job as the Athletic Director for the schools in Lubbock. I am sad and happy about this. I have really dealt with some pretty strong emotions the past few weeks. Some are too personal to put on here, but I will share a few. One is the feeling I had when I was growing up and my parents would tell me we were moving. I am having THOSE same emotions, which is weird because I am not the one moving. I have really felt like I have a connection to Odessa. It has been the closest thing to having a home town for me. I am going to miss it. Lubbock is about the same distance from here, even a little closer. My brother and sil AND niece live there, so I am sure that we will see them more. That will be REALLY nice. I just sometimes want to go see my mom and dad and that's it. Does anyone else feel like that? I am not WORRIED about this, I just love having time alone with my parents. It is a selfishness that I am going to have to get over. Only good things are going to come of this move for them. I am excited for them, I just have my own issues about it all. I am working SO hard on not being selfish and trying to say only good things. This is a GREAT move for them. IT will be great. (See how easily I can talk myself into it? HA!)

ANYWAY - That is the parents situation. I know boring to most, but like I said I needed to put it out there for those that wanted to know. AND it was good for me to "talk" about it.

27 Comments:

Isn't it incredible that such wonderful energy and power could be obtained from blogging...I admire bloggers that can find the most boring post ever...
I totaly understands your selfishness...i guess through this post your selflessness was more on fueling your desire...

By Momo, at 10:02 AM
Well sometimes doing the right thing isnt feeling it at first, but just going through the motions and saying the right things. Then hopefully the good feeling will rub off on you.

I dont think your desire to have alone time with your parents is that weird or selfish really. I think its important to have some one on one once in a while. It sounds like you have a good frame of mind through it all. Im glad you blogged it. Just get it out there woman....*rubbing nose* hehehe

By Trina, at 10:08 AM
I am glad that I could bring this topic up to you yesterday:) I am sure that the move will be great in the long run. Maybe eventually they could end up back here and you could get some one-on-one time. Since I am an only child all I get is one-on-one time so I probably take it for granted sometimes. I do relate during the holidays though whenever all the relatives are around and there is no one on one time.

You are not selfish, you just love your parents. That is nothing to be ashamed of. I hope my girls still love me enough to feel this way when they get older:)

By Erica, at 10:30 AM
It's never boring dear... it's your life! It's personal and that is what blogs are good for. Reaching out and expressing yourself, if you can and receiving support in return.

I'm sure you'll settle into this whole move thing eventually. But because of your past experiences, it just natural to feel those things. Don't worry and don't fight it. It will get easier:)

By Angel, at 11:30 AM
I would be sad if my parents moved, because I have friends in that town. I wouldn't be able to visit friends if they moved. It's good that you're trying to see the best out of it.

I've gone to bed without washing my face, and I know what you mean....yuck! Usually I only do it around now, when I'm prego and too tired and/or lazy to do the nighttime ritual before bed.

By Anonymous, at 11:55 AM
I can totally relate. You know how my situation is the same with Kirks side of the family. Sometimes we want to just go & see only his parents..and not have to share time with everyone else. I know it SOUNDS selfish in writing..but it's really not. Its just human nature.

I think you are handling this situatin with your parents as good as you possibly could at this point. When you feel like Odessa is your one true home..that can bring up alot of emotions when they leave. I think that is totally normal. Keep being positive about it..think of the GOOD things...just like you did in this post. It's amazing how that really does make you feel better about it! Love ya!

By Anonymous, at 12:11 PM
While I never moved very far from my home town when I lived there with my family, I would be very sad if my parents moved from it. So, I understand your feelings.

By Mall Worker, at 12:13 PM
Glad to see you "talked" about your parents move. Those are all normal feelings and it'll just take time to work through them. You were upset when they moved to Odessa, but that worked out o.k., so this one will too. And now your kids won't have to wear those MOJO shirts any more! :)

By cindy, at 12:20 PM
My kids LOVE their MOJO shirts. AND now they will just be wearing Lubbock Monterey (the school I graduated high school from) shirts AND their MOJO ones. We like to spread the love around in our house. :)

By Nicole, at 12:28 PM
Not to go all psycho-babble on you, but for many of us going out in the world, our parents are a 'link' to "home" (whatever "home" means to you). But when they move somewhere else - no matter how nice - that link is broken. They're not "home". Of course their at their home, but not the one that links you to your past. And it's fine to miss that connection to your younger self.

By Elle*Bee, at 3:02 PM
Wow Friend, I relate to this post on so many levels. First of all, this situation with your parents has me feeling so sad. I have enjoyed having them back home so much. I know that God's hand is in this and that they look to Him for all of their decisions. I also relate because my parents close on the house I grew up in on Friday. The emotions of them moving from not only this town where they have only been 7 blocks from me, but also moving from the house that I grew up in, have been almost overwhelming at times. Please know that I am praying for you and all that you are feeling right now. I know this move is hard for MANY reasons. Also, please know that you always have a place to come and stay and visit in Odessa. Love ya Girl! Reese

By Procters in MOJO land, at 3:31 PM
I once went to a Permian/Odessa game when I was in college. That was the CRAZIEST sporting event I've ever been to my life. It was the absolute height of Texas high school football mania.

And I still need to watch that movie.

:)

By Anonymous, at 3:42 PM
Definitely ok to blast out words today!!!

I have picked Matt up from kindergarten in my PJs and icky hair. Praise God for power doors in our van!

About your parents -- everything you said was ok!!!

By Glass Half Full, at 4:05 PM
Being positive about something helps your self confidence. Being negative just brings you down...so keep the positive vibes going your way...and pray about it.

By Jen, at 4:08 PM
You are not being selfish! I get how you want to spend time with "just your parents." That time is special. I know in the long run it will be a great move!! Also, you never know, in 2 years I bet they'll be back in A-Town FOR GOOD!!!

Oh, and thanks for the comment you left me! I knew you would have some good parenting advice!!

By Allison, at 4:27 PM
Now you can come visit us in Lubbock. We can take the kids to the park or something and catch up! See, there you go!

By Ashley, at 4:27 PM
I fell asleep last night with my makeup on, something I rarely do cuz I hate the feeling in the morning too!

By Lala's world, at 4:36 PM
Cute post! I LOVE when I get to bed early... so nice. And good for you for getting out this morning in your robe... I would have waited to get gas and probably run out!

By Lisa, at 4:51 PM
You have very wise comments from your fellow bloggers. I wish I was as wise in my statements.
LYFAA

By Anonymous, at 6:53 PM
I love your wonderful and Great and LOL at your Really Ugly. I have dropped the kids off to school in my PJ's before :)
Sorry your having a hard time with your parents move. Try to keep in mind Romans 8:28. I think your feelings sound perfectly normal to me. (((HUGS)))

By KC, at 10:24 PM
parents bring out tough emotions... i totally understnad what you mean whenyou say you just want to have time with your parents! I am the same way at time... just want to be what they focus on!!!
I am so sorry you are having a hard time with the move! I really cannot imagine what it was like moving so much as a child... I moved 2 times and that was hard enough. on top of all the mess with your parents, waking up inthe morning with your 2 favorite guys seems like the best thing EVER!
hugs honey! chin up!

By Lindsay, at 11:45 PM
Wow! I'm glad I'm not the only one who will get up in the wee hours of the morning to get gas in PJ's. Long story I will tell it some day in my blog.

Hold you parents close. Spend as much time as you can with them. It isn't selfish to want alone them with them. In the event of thier passing, you have created as many great memories as you could and you won't regret it ever.

By BigDaddyGonzoVents, at 11:54 PM
I so get the fact that moving all the time as a kid is rough. I think we lived in 13 differnt places until I was a junior in high school. So funny that you are a Texas girl cuz the majority of our moving was in the midwest a.k.a Texas and Oklahoma. Just one more adjustment... I'm sure you'll do great!! BTW.. love your blog!

By marykathryn, at 12:37 AM
I once moved to New Zealand for 5 years and I missed my family sooooo much.

By Kim's Life, at 5:23 AM
I can't even begin to tell you all the places I've lived in my life, and about 6 years ago my dad and aunt told me my grandma was thinking about moving out of her her (that she had lived in for 50 years) and what would I think if they sold it?

I went nuclear on the them, it was embarressing. But that's THE only place that's been a constant in my life.

My parents live there now. They've rennovated it and it's the most beautiful house ever, I still wonder what they would have done if I hadn't said anything, but I'm glad they didn't let it get away, it's my only "home".

Silly, I know.

I hope things work out well with your parents moving too. At least they will be close to you! Most of my family live in another state, which is tough.

By sari, at 7:21 AM
After I graduated from high school, my grandparents put their house (that I had visited my whole life) up for sale so they could buy another one. I was SO upset! So I can understand a small fraction of your emotions.

I live so far from my own parents that if they sold their house and moved... I wouldn't really notice. We moved around my whole life... it's nice to be married and grounded in one place for a phase of my life!

By Anonymous, at 10:26 AM
I was about to write that I had the same Very Ugly thing. But, I re-read, and I guess you meant gas ... as in gas for the car.

I was thinking of passing gas in my pjs's. :)

Have a great Thursday (and Friday, too!)

Mike
http://somethingaboutparenting.typepad.com/

By Anonymous, at 3:51 PM